From both experience and research, this article offers an understanding of who is the prostituted woman, outlines the negative effects of prostitution, and discusses the question of whether legalising prostitution makes it safer and to what extent can it be said that prostitution is “just another job”. This interview has been held with two experts in the field of prostitution Romina Lopez and Dr Anna Maria Vella; their expertise coming both from their studies and their experience of witnessing, supporting and accompanying many women who worked or still work on the streets.
Who is the prostituted woman? - “The traumatised, unprotected child”
“The prostituted woman is a woman as any other, with various diverse characteristics. The only difference is that as a child, most of the women in prostitution would have endured extreme harsh realities of emotional and physical distress which one would never have thought possible. It is often reported, that as a child, she would have experienced physical and sexual abuse, as well as emotional neglect by care givers whom she would have trusted. These are very often family members, relatives, or close family friends. Such traumas cause the woman to lock herself in isolation, and refrain from seeking help, as she would have never experienced any type of protection from adult caregivers,” Romina explains.
"These childhood traumas negatively affect her even as an adolescent and adult: “This sad reality of trauma only enforces the woman to build a wall around her identity, as a means of separating herself from the rest of society; she learns to fend for herself. Such distressing experiences linger on during her adolescence, as well as in her adult life. She often recalls as feeling alone and isolated, she learns to hide and lock all her traumas in her own Pandora`s box. Such trauma and isolation only enforce her distress, which in turn transforms into numerous negative factors, such as a sense of helplessness and a loss of identity. She starts identifying herself only through the experiences she would have endured, and the discourse she would have been conditioned with during such traumas. Repeatedly, she would have heard that she is worthless, only good for being used as a sexual object, and felt unloved,” Romina describes.
“It was my grandmother that took care of me. And she wasn't a bad person. She just had this drinking problem. She would bring drinking partners home from the bar and after she got intoxicated and passed out these men would do things to me. It started when I was four or five years old and it became a regular occurrence. She worked as a domestic in the suburbs. It took her two hours to get to work and two hours to get home. So I was a latch-key kid - I wore a key around my neck and I would take myself to kindergarten and let myself back in at the end of the day. And the molesters knew about that, and they took advantage of it.
I would watch women with big glamorous hair and sparkly dresses standing on the street outside our house. I had no idea what they were up to; I just thought they were shiny. One day I asked my grandmother what the women were doing and she said, "Those women take their panties off and men give them money." And I remember saying to myself, "I'll probably do that" because men had already been taking my panties off.
Brenda – My 25 years as a prostitute
Reasons for prostitution - “I cried through everything but I did it”
There are numerous reasons why a woman may end up in prostitution, “most commonly due to desperate financial problems, in order to maintain their drug addiction, debt bondage, and out of fear of harm from pimps and boyfriends. Such sad and harsh realities definitely remove any belief that consent is exercised freely by the woman or child in prostitution,” Romina explains.
The notion of consent in prostitution – “many are coerced into this lifestyle”
To what extent is prostitution consensual? “Prostitution is often referred to as the private sexual exchange amongst consenting adults, often for money or goods, and frequently drugs. Nonetheless, this notion of adult consent has been queried by survivor advocates since in truth, many women who are involved in prostitution are coerced into this lifestyle at a young age, mostly during adolescence. They normally commence prostitution between the age of 12 - 14.”
Romina describes how the woman who experiences the above mentioned childhood traumas, views herself through the lens of the abuser: “She feels unworthy, and suffers extreme low self-esteem. As a result, she often ends up in addictive behaviours, such as alcohol use, substance abuse, and lead extreme chaotic lifestyles. Too often she is involved in destructive relationships, with boyfriends, who further exploit and coerce her into a prostituted lifestyle. These so-called boyfriends are in reality pimps masked as boyfriends, who practice a sense of ownership on these women.
By the time I was 14, I'd had two children with boys in the community, two baby girls. My grandmother started to say that I needed to bring in some money to pay for these kids, because there was no food in the house, we had nothing. So, one evening - it was actually Good Friday - I went along in front of a hotel wearing a two-piece dress, cheap plastic shoes, and some orange lipstick which I thought might make me look older.
I was 14 years old and I cried through everything. But I did it. I didn't like it, but the five men who dated me that night showed me what to do. They knew I was young and it was almost as if they were excited by it. I went home and I gave most of that money to my grandmother, who didn't ask me where it came from.“
Brenda – My 25 years as a prostitute
The negative effects of prostitution – “physical violence and psychological put downs”
Romina describes how the negative effects of prostitution which are experienced through both pimps and clients are manifold:
1. Changing the woman’s identity - “Pimps create rapid emotional dependency, they start from changing a girl`s name as a means of removing her from her identity and past.”
2. Making the woman socially invisible - “In order to separate the woman from her environment, pimps make her socially invisible.”
3. Controlling the woman through violence – “Another means of control is also achieved by violence in order to intimidate the woman and instill in her the notion that she is worthless.”
4. Portraying the woman as an object who supplies income -“The woman is perceived as an object who supplies a financial income for the pimp. Women in prostitution are perceived as body parts, a commodity for sexual pleasure, their feelings and emotions are irrelevant.”
5. Breaking the woman’s psyche and spirit – “After physical control is achieved, pimps will then use psychological power and brainwashing. Other means of ownership used by pimps are specific symbolic tattoos. All these acts are internalised by the woman, resulting in intense self-hate which may result years after breaking away from prostitution.”
6. The woman’s suffering of mental health issues - “The provision of drugs, and a place to sleep, usually provided by the pimp/boyfriend, are considered and confused as acts of love by these vulnerable women, hence they would do anything in return. Being caught up in such a vicious cycle, results in a further sense of helplessness, which commonly unfolds in mental health issues, domestic violence, homelessness, and social isolation. A significant number of women in prostitution suffer post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) as commonly experienced by soldiers after war, and dissociation, as frequently experienced by children who suffer sexual abuse (Farley, 2018). Dissociation is a consequence of both sexual abuse endured in childhood, as well as sexual violence experienced in adult prostitution. In order to survive such exploitation and harsh violence, the woman learns to dissociate body from mind, she tries to protect her spiritual self from the bodily scars. Subsequently as a result to such psychological harm, these women fall victims to severe depressive disorders, anxiety, and are continuously hypervigilant.”
7. Exposing the woman to further violence by her clients – “Extensive research highlights how globally, prostituted women experience domination, harassment, assault, battering, and stalking (Farley, 2018). Despite that money is paid, sexual assault remains the highest and most common experience by women in prostitution (Argento, et al., 2014). Violence in prostitution emerges from the concept of commodification and objectification. Once an individual is perceived as an object, it seems almost logical that exploitation and abuse occur. On a worldwide view, statistics show how mortality rates amongst women in prostitution are high. In Canada, a study of prostituted women found that they are dying at 40 times the average national rate for their age group (MacKinnon, 2014).”
8. Making the woman prone to trafficking – “One must also acknowledge that globally, millions of women and children are trafficked for the use of sexual exploitation daily.” Romina says.
9. Entrapping the woman in stigma, oppression and marginalisation – “In addition to such sad and harsh realities, these women suffer from further stigma and oppression by society in general, and are most often marginalised. Due to this entrapped lifestyle, they are never taken seriously, they are discriminated, they remain burdened with a police record full of criminal offences, they are trapped in their trauma and their shame, they are labelled for life, even if they manage to exit this lifestyle, they still remain identified as the ‘ex-whore’.”
10. Reinforcing gender inequality – “Prostitution promotes further gender inequality since those who are prostituted are frequently always women, whilst those who pay for sex are mostly exclusively men. It is rather a sexist approach as in reality, it is men who are being protected and not the women, male sex buyers can and do originally transmit disease to the women.”
“The third time I went down there, a couple of guys pistol-whipped me and put me in the trunk of their car. They had approached me before because I was, as they called it, "unrepresented" on the street. All I knew was the light in the trunk of the car and then the faces of these two guys with their pistol. First they took me to a field out in the middle of nowhere and raped me. Then they took me to a hotel room and locked me in the closet.
That's the kind of thing pimps will do to break a girl's spirits. They kept me in there for a long time. I was begging them to let me out because I was hungry, but they would only allow me out of the closet if I agreed to work for them.
They pimped me for a while, six months or so. I wasn't able to go home. I tried to get away but they caught me, and when they caught me they hurt me so bad. Later on, I was trafficked by other men. The physical abuse was horrible, but the real abuse was the mental abuse - the things they would say that would just stick and which you could never get from under. Pimps are very good at torture, they're very good at manipulation.”
Brenda – My 25 years as a prostitute
Is prostitution just another job? “sex work is a cover narrative to hide the harms of prostitution”
Are we willing as a society to promote prostitution in our career fairs for secondary schools? To what extent is it just another job? Romina believes that referring to prostitution as ‘sex work’ is a cover narrative which supports in concealing the realities of the harms of prostitution, such as the sexual abuse which frequently occurs and also promotes gender inequality. “When prostitution is referred to as “sex work”, it is being approved that sex is work for women whilst it is leisure for men. Most damagingly of all, is the fact that we are accepting that women's bodies exist as a commodity to be used and consumed. The term ‘sex work’ is a cover narrative, it is being used to hide the harms of prostitution. In truth this narrative is used as a promotion to prostitution, and as a means of helping the growth of the sex industry.
Let me ask you a question. How many people would you encourage to quit their jobs to become prostitutes? Would you say to any of your close friends or female relatives, "Hey, have you thought of this? I think this would be a really great move for you!
"And let me say this too. However the situation starts off for a girl, that's not how the situation will end up. It might look OK now, the girl in law school might say she only has high-end clients that come to her through an agency, that she doesn't work on the streets but arranges to meet people in hotel rooms, but the first time that someone hurts her, that's when she really sees her situation for what it is. You always get that crazy guy slipping through and he has three or four guys behind him, and they force their way into your room and gang rape you, and take your phone and all your money. And suddenly you have no means to make a living and you're beaten up too. That is the reality of prostitution.
Brenda – My 25 years as a prostitute
Does legalising prostitution make it safer? “legalising prostitution as a harm reduction is a myth”
Romina believes that legalising prostitution does not make it safer. She describes the negative effects and harm of legalising prostitution by saying that, “the legitimisation and normalisation of prostitution has a deep, negative effect on the dignity of all women. Prostitution is a harmful industry, extensive research provides evidence that violence and rape are common practice in prostitution (Farley, 2018). Rape is perceived as the norm and is frequently considered as part of the job of the women in prostitution, hence it goes unreported or even worse, if reported, it is often overlooked by the judiciary system (Farley, 2004).”
She clearly states that, “the idea of legalising prostitution as a harm reduction is a myth, since the research clearly confirms how the prostituted women still suffer violence and harm (Raymond, 2004; Banyard, 2013). The concept of having regular medical check-ups for STDs or HIV, and by providing the use of condoms as a means of reducing harm is a farce. According to the research, sex buyers pay more for not using contraceptives (Raymond & Hughes, 2001), and sex buyers are never checked for STDs/HIV (Raymond, 2004).”
“Irrespective of whether prostitution is legalised, or decriminalized, extensive research provides clear evidence that prostitution causes significant harm, both physically and psychologically (Farley, 2004),” she adds.
“These harms endured in prostitution are a consequence of the global rise in the sex industry, where massive amounts of money are involved. The culturalisation and normalisation of men buying women for sex, result in the misconception that predatory male behaviours are normal, thus claiming prostitution as part of human nature (Scambler & Scambler, 1995). On the basis of such concepts, the ‘normalcy’ of these behaviors is then mirrored in laws and policies that describe prostitution as a means of employment referred as ‘sex work’, where prostitution is perceived as any other unpleasant job, such as that of working in a factory (Farley, 2004).
"After decriminalising prostitution, the sex market expands"
Romina continues that, “after decriminalisation, research indicates that the sex market enormously expands, competition becomes intense, and unprotected sex becomes uncontrollable. The concept of normalisation will have further repercussions with a rise in demand and not enough supply. Men became far more aggressive, coercive and demanding in their perversity, with a spike in dangerous acts (Kraus, 2016). As one woman in prostitution in New Zealand quoted: “the state itself has told these men they have entitlement to women's bodies” (Glazer, 2016). Consequently, this has resulted in an increase in violence against women.”
"A rise in demand for pregnant women prostitutes"
She also speaks of a particular demand for pregnant women: “A shocking phenomenon which has surged within the sex trade is the high demand for pregnant women, it has been reported that sex buyers desire to feel the baby in the womb. As a result, late abortions occur frequently, whilst there are others who opt to give up their baby for adoption. In order to maintain this market, women are repetitively impregnated (Kraus, 2016). Such conditions cause significant emotional harm and deep stress not just to the pregnant women, but it also affects the development of the unborn child in the womb.”
"A rise in advertising material degrading women"
“Where prostitution is legal, it has become the norm for highway and public transport advertisements to degradingly promote women as sex objects, and for men to commonly conduct business meetings in sex clubs (Raymond, 2004). Brothel owners, who are renamed as entrapreneurs, often describe that their client base are usually well-mannered educated professional men who visit during the day, and then return to their families in the evenings.”
“The legalisation of prostitution has dire effects on society as a whole, since it does not only promote gender inequality where men may exploit women and consume them as sexual objects, but it further normalises this ideation, further teaching our young boys that such acts are normal and permissible since they are legal,” she says.
Does legalised prostitution increase human trafficking?
Romina says that yes it does: “An academic study of 150 countries identified that increased human trafficking is inclined to be reported in countries with legalised prostitution rather than in countries where prostitution is prohibited (Glazer, 2016). For instance, it was discovered that in Germany there was a sudden escalation in human trafficking reports after it liberalized the sex market in 2002 (Cho, Dreher, & Neumayer, 2013),” she explained.
“Extensive research reveal that human trafficking for sexual exploitation has increased in countries where prostitution was legalised (Raymond, 2004; Glazer, 2016). Since legalising prostitution in Germany, in 2002, the country has become notoriously identified as one of Europe`s largest sex markets. Over the past 20 years it has been estimated that the number of prostitutes has doubled to 400,000 (Reed, 2014). The Coalition Against Trafficking in Women argue that the sex industry has escalted in countries where prostitution was legalised, causing an increase in trafficking (GAATW).”
In 2014 the Council Of Europe stated that the Nordic model (Sweden, Iceland, Norway) of “prohibiting the purchase of sexual services” has “a positive impact on reducing trafficking in human beings” and that “prostitution regulations should include harm-reduction measures aimed at countering the negative effects of prostitution on the people involved and supporting those who wish to leave the sex industry.”
The dignity and the soul of the prostitute
Romina describes how in this explotaitive business of prostitution, the dignity of the woman is hard to be seen: “The humanity and dignity behind the woman who is bought for sex, is often failed to be recognised by the man who pays for sex.”
She also describes how difficult it is for the prostituted woman to express her pain: “The woman in prostitution is silent for various reasons, she is hardly ever provided with the occasion to voice the truths about her life, since this would affect the sex trade. Her silence is the consequence of threats, fear, shame, and dissociation. Just as the silence of women in abusive relationships should not be misunderstood, so should not be the silence of the prostituted woman be misunderstood as consenting to prostitution (Farely, 2004).”
In all that time I never once saw a way out but when I was nearly 40 years old, a customer threw me out of his car. My dress got caught in the door and he dragged me six blocks along the ground, tearing all the skin off my face and the side of my body.
I went to Hospital and they immediately took me to the emergency room. Because of the condition I was in, they called in a police officer, who looked me over and said: "Oh I know her. She's just a hooker. She probably beat some guy and took his money and got what she deserved." And I could hear the nurse laughing along with him. They pushed me out into the waiting room as if I wasn't worth anything, as if I didn't deserve the services of the emergency room after all.
Brenda – My 25 years as a prostitute
“Beyond all the outer layers of toughness projected by the woman in prostitution, the soul of a child is found stored deeply within the self of each woman. That woman becomes the little girl who still craves and yearns for the love, care, attention, and protection which she never received as a child, which she is still waiting for and hoping that one day she will find, in order to fill a void of pain, fear, and neglect that have accompanied her through her life.”
And it was at that moment, while I was waiting for the next shift to start and for someone to attend to my injuries, that I began to think about everything that had happened in my life. Up until that point I had always had some idea of what to do, where to go, how to pick myself up again. Suddenly it was like I had run out of bright ideas. I remember looking up and saying to God, "These people don't care about me. Could you please help me?"
God worked real fast. A doctor came and took care of me and she asked me to go and see social services in the hospital. What I knew about social services was they were anything but social. But they gave me a bus pass to go to a place called Genesis House, which was run by an awesome Englishwoman named Edwina Gateley, who became a great hero and mentor for me. She helped me turn my life around.
It was a safe house, and I had everything that I needed there. I didn't have to worry about paying for clothes, food, getting a job. They told me to take my time and stay as long as I needed - and I stayed almost two years. My face healed, my soul healed. I got Brenda back.
Brenda – My 25 years as a prostitute
“In reality, what is involved in prostitution is not sexual liberation, but rather the extensive financial revenue made out of the exploitation of women. There is something about prostitution that is systemic, it is inherently harmful, regardless whether it is chosen, or coerced, whether it is decriminalised or criminalised,” Romina concludes.
Social assistant Romina Lopez and Dr Anna Maria Vella offer their services at “Dar Hosea” (Hosea House) a walk-in centre for women who are currently working in street prostitution. It is a place of rest and support which offers food, shower, clothes, shelter and other forms of moral, medical and legal support. The woman is neither asked questions nor asked to change her lifestyle, even though some do. The prostituted woman is welcomed from staff with love, care and respect. Advice and condoms are also available. Dar Hosea which is now in its fifth year of operation is a project of the Association Friends Of Thouret .
Article written by Universe Of Faith
Published: March 2019
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